The Myth of Control: Surfing the Waves of Leadership
For over 15 years, I’ve dove deep into meditation. What began as a tool to manage stress and anxiety during undergrad has evolved into a profound personal practice that has helped guide me through the ebbs and flows of life. Through my practice, I’ve found comfort and also honed my skills as a leader.
Six years ago, my passion led me to pursue MBSR teacher training at Brown University. Since then, I’ve been leading meditation groups both in professional settings and amongst teams.
When I mention my practice to others.,I often encounter initial skepticism “You pay to sit in silence?”. To which I usually respond, “Heck yeah I do!”
Just this past weekend, I found myself in a day long retreat centered around the topic of “Impermanence and the Myth of Control”. It was a welcome pause amidst the chaos of the last 6 months. From returning to full time work, nurturing my coaching practice, and recovering from ankle surgery, life has felt like a treadmill.
As a mindfulness practitioner, I’ve come to embrace the fundamental truth that change is the only constant in life. During my time as an executive, I witnessed attempts of others around me to try and control and bend things to their will. Year after year, meticulously laid plans around everything from hiring and headcount were often tossed out the door due to the inevitable.
In the face of change, I often witness leaders instinctively tighten their grip, aiming to exert control amongst the discomfort or sense of uncertainty. Yet through my practice, I’ve learned to strike a balance. As leaders, it’s a delicate balance of setting intentions but also remaining flexible in our approach.
It means creating a north star vision, while embracing the unpredictable nature of the journey ahead. It’s about navigating the waves with grace, observing what arises within ourselves and those around us, and embracing the power of surrender rather than control.
