Unlocking The power of connection: How leaders can beat loneliness
Let’s talk about something we don’t discuss enough: the profound loneliness that often shadows leadership.
As a former VP of Research and career coach, I’ve experienced this first hand and supported clients through similar challenges. Loneliness can be a surprising companion to those who seem to be surrounded by people – CEOs, VPs, Directors, Managers – it doesn’t discriminate based on your position.
Earlier this year, the Surgeon General issued a public health advisory addressing the loneliness epidemic, not just in the United State, but as a global symptom as modern life. However, one group that bears a unique burden when it comes to loneliness is leaders.
Leaders shoulder the weight of decisions that ripple through their teams, companies, and customer base. They often hold confidential information that they can’t share due to various reasons, from timing constraints to power dynamics. This can leave them feeling isolated, unable to confide in colleagues about complex issues and even their personal lives.
The pressure of leadership can take a toll, and it’s a reminder that connections are what make us human. Without meaningful connections at work, a leader’s well-being can suffer greatly.
Loneliness Doesn’t Mean Alone
When I accepted my previous executive-level role, I knew the impact would be immense, and I needed a strong support system. I proactively built my own“board of directors”, a concept initially introduced by Jan Torrisi-Mokwa in her book, Building Career Equity.
A board of directors is a network of individuals who can act as advisors and support you as a leader. Each person will typically specialize in a different area to help broaden your perspective and approach to solving problems. For me this included a therapist, executive coach, research leadership circle, friends and family
Therapist: I’ve had the privilege of working with my therapist for years. Together, we’ve unearthed the “whys” behind my thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, enabling me to create healthier patterns. A therapist can be an invaluable resource for leaders to navigate work-related and personal emotions effectively
Executive Coach: Coaching beautifully complements therapy. It focuses on the present and the future, expanding possibilities, offering accountability, and fostering meaningful change. Want to enhance your impact or find better work-life balance? A coach can be your guide
Research Leadership Circle: As the most senior research leader in my company, I aimed to hone my craft and stay connected with fellow leaders. So, I established a group coaching circle with fellow research leaders. Our monthly gatherings have become a highlight of my month, offering insights and camaraderie
Friends + Family: You are more than your job title. Your life outside of work shapes how you show up in your role. It’s crucial to create space for and build connections with friends and family
Wired for connection
Leadership can be a demanding role, but it’s vital to remember that leaders are human, and humans are wired for connection.
Building your “board of directors” can profoundly impact your well-being and the culture of your team. Take time to reflect on your skills, background and future vision. Your board of directors can be tailored to your unique journey.
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